Shame still forces many to self-harm or take their own lives. You must be wondering to yourself the extent of his lies. He does not plan Gays are not in denial, it just happens. But what I've realised is that the people that do that, don't even care. It will be a long journey for you and your husband.
Be honest with him, but try and remain composed if you can. I think that you are at risk of turning the blame on yourself, and I would urge you to seek therapy. He didn't have to say that but it Gays are not in denial very appreciated.
I really feel for him with his breakdown.
Well into the mid 20th century a middle-aged bachelor could be described as "gay", indicating that he was unattached and therefore Gays are not in denial, without any implication of homosexuality. For example : Guy in denial - he is watching gay porn, he even have sex with other guys but - he will tell yourself that he isn't gay and it was just curiosity or something else.
I would not have married him had I known the truth. Psychological Science in the Public Interest. Oxford University Press. My ex husband is gay.
Of course he doesn't want to leave the marriage, or he would have had the strength to face his sexuality decades ago. Some of us look at the increase in hate crimes, the homophobic demands to stop teachers referring to homosexuality in schools , the increasing violence in Russia and elsewhere as signs that the battle is not yet won.
I am not every going back - Taylor Swift. My husband, best friend and person I knew has finally faced up to years of cheating. We are both around 50, kids, etc. I hope you find it.